Chapter 1 Our Story Begins With Dragons and Dragon Fighters

STORY PART ONE

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Dameon, The Dragon of the Land

The land of Nowhere can be anywhere, everywhere, or no where. In the land of Nowhere lives a large Dragon, Dameon. Beware and be good as this Dragon is fierce, does not care who he hurts. He whirls flames very where, and his shadow casts darkness on the land. His roars send children every where to hide under their covers as he stalks the land in the rain throwing his thunderous voice everywhere.

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Dameon Scares Children

In the morning Grandpa was telling the kids that daylight chases Dameon away so there is nothing to worry about so do as you please.

 

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‘No,’ instructed Grandma, ‘even in good weather and daylight Dameon and smaller dragons pillaged  the city. They fly over groups of people that are being bad, we call them Group Dragons.

BJTAKENLarry’s Dad and Uncle has taken Larry’s little sister BJ from her mother and BJ is very unhappy. Larry’s Dad and Uncle have a group Dragon, you can not see them until you enter the world of magic.’

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Our story has 8 little heroes. Skinny Ragde, Our brunet Charlotte, Destiny with black hair, and Larry tend to be mischievous, they teased skinny blond headed Edgar, black haired Molly, blond headed Sue, and George so they have a group Dragon. Ragde, Charlotte, Destiny and Larry began to tease the others saying, ‘You are sissy kids, mama children, you are not tough like us. We are as tough as my dad, he owns the factory and kicks your parents butts. You are afraid of Dragons, we are not.’

‘Group Dragons grow as pocket dragons grow,’ said Grandma, ‘and pocket dragons grow when you tease and act up.’

‘Pocket Dragons?’ they all inquired.

‘Yes,’ continued Grandma, ‘every person has an even smaller dragon, a pocket

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Pocket Dragons and The Group Dragon

dragon of their own because everyone can act mischievous or do things that others do not like such as lie, be greedy, blame or hit another.’

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As Pocket Dragons Grow so Do Group Dragons

When  people let their  pocket dragons grow the group dragons grow larger and fiercer, as group Dragons grow Dameon also grows and people in the city grow afraid.

 

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‘But,’ Grandma admonished, ‘just as everyone has a pocket dragon, they have a pocket Warrior when we are trying to do right. Remember you can not see them until you enter the world of magic.’

‘But,’ continued Grandma , ‘just as there are group dragons there are group Warriors.  All the warriors grow when we try to do right as a group. They will control the group dragon and pocket dragons.’

Ragde, Charlotte, Destiny, and Larry said to the other kids, ‘No way will you pansies ever control us. We are tough and you guys are weak. Our pocket dragons will keep our group Dragon stronger then your Pocket Warriors or our Group Warrior.’

‘How do you know?’ inquired Edgar, Molly, Sue, and George, ‘you can not see them.’

Grandma hesitated and the spoke again, ‘Remember you can not see them until you enter the world of magic. To enter the world of magic you must have a goal, a dream to aspire to.’

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As Pocket Warriors Grow So Do Group Warriors

Grandma continued, ‘Larry, Molly, Sue, and Edgar try and do good things for others. As their pocket Warriors grow, their group Warrior will also grow.  As the group Warriors through out the land grow so does Empatha, the ultimate Warrior of the land, to fight Dameon.’

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Our Warrior Consciousness Fights Dameon

“When the Warriors in Nowhere are not able to keep the Dragons in check’, continued Grandma, ‘everyone becomes afraid and it is up to us all to make sure our Warriors grow. When you try to do right the world becomes magical and you can do great things, that is if you try to do right.’

‘No, Grandma,’ said Ragde, Charlotte, Sue, and Larry, ‘We are tough. No pansy Warriors will ever beat us. We have more fun then they ever will. We enjoy teasing the others.’

Chapter 2 The Good King and The Evil King

ADULTS only to read blue to selves. In our story there are two worlds, that of the kids and that of their dragon’s and warriors. We will call the stories Reality and Fantasy. Type in Blue is not part of the story but is an adult explanation.  In reality George’s father was elected as Governor so he could make laws of fairness, so no one would be a bully tyrant. Parents can explain the reality of the story if they please. In Fantasy:

Because the Warrior Empatha, flew over the land to keep Dameon in line, s/he was elected King (Queen?), a good king, to make sure people followed the rules. When the people followed the rules the pocket Dragons shrank and all the Warriors grew. Everyone was happy as there was peace in the land.

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All the great Warriors fought back Dameon and the land prospered. Dameon was unhappy, he wanted more, he wanted to fight back so he took Larry’s Dad’s factory and made it his factory, and in this factory he made an evil spell to mesmerize the people of the land. He put the spell on everything he made and sold. The people that bought his wares began to get apathetic and sat around and quit helping the good King in keeping rules that kept the land safe and free. As all the dragons grew so did Dameon and he again began to intimidate the people of the land to take away their freedom. When the people were too afraid and their Warriors shrank Dameon  made himself a King also, the Evil King.

 

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To reverse the spell the Good Warrior King, Empatha, declared that the royal prince, her son, and the princess, daughter of the Evil Dragon King, were to get married. This would break the spell.

Dameon wanted to stop the marriage so one dark night Dameon stole his daughter from the prince and locked the princess in the highest Tower of his hidden Castle. No one could find her to rescue her.

In reality the people were  addicted to gadgets or substances made by Larry’s Dad’s Factory and were mesmerized and idle and led to believe that their tom foolery was benign.  People neglected to keep the laws in their favor. Interest groups changed the laws to the advantage of the big business tycoons who put down family values. Family values were needed to turn people from addiction to take responsibility again. But Advertisers will dispel the concept of family values and push for only addiction. Next pic not part of story unless you want to explain story meanings with kids.0D03Governor

 

Chapter 3 The Call For Help

The Good King Empatha sent out a decree for help. ‘The good King wants heroes to help him find his son’s fiancee,’ blurted out the good king’s scribe to the public, ‘the daughter of the Evil King.’

The Evil King sent out a decree to warn people not to listen to the Good King and not to hunt for his daughter. ‘Anyone who helps the good King will be our enemy,’ yelled the scribe of the evil King.

Our eight little heroes looked at each other. The four little Warrior kids wanted to try and help the good King, but the other four children did not want to for fear of the Bad King becoming angry.

Larry, Charlotte, Destiny, and Ragde said ‘we do not want to help, we like dragons, what could we possible do?’

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Edgar, Molly, Sue, and George (the Warrior Kids) said, ‘It would be an adventure. We could see who can find the Princess, Warriors or Dragons. We could see who is stronger, Warriors or Dragons. Grandma said it depends on who tries the hardest.’

The others wanted to take on the challenge, ‘but,’ they said, ‘what can you do?’

The kids gathered together away from the crowd. Edgar and his pet Ant and Bee said, ‘We could help by scouting the area for bad Dragons’

Molly and her pets, Macho and Cuddles, said ‘We could calm the land with our caring.’

Sue and Geru, chimed in and said, ‘We could make a map.’

George with Rabbit and turtle, added, ‘We could rescue the Princess.’

They did not know how to do any of that. But together they chimed in ‘WE CAN TRY, OUR DREAM IS TO FIND THE PRINCESS.’

Just then a magical dream horse appeared. Their pets changed to magical  widgets forms and joined the horse. Macho the scary cat became a yellow skinny cat. Cuddles the loving dog had became a heart shaped puppy. Their group warrior Consciousness and group Dragon appeared with the widgets.

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Larry, Destiny, Charlotte, and Ragde laughed at the others and yelled they would steal the horse and just do as they please as their widgets Coyote, Crow, Raccoon, and Spiedie would grow as the others widgets would shrink. What a horrible feeling for the other four kids, Edgar, Molly, Sue and George. They wanted to give up. They did not know how to find the princess as no one else did either. It would be so easy just to let the others steal the horse. With that thought their widgets shrank.

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But George, Sue, Molly, and Edgar  knew they needed to do what was right and try to find the princess. They knew that to help others they had to be brave and declare what they feel is right. So they yelled back, ‘No, we rule, we do what’s right.’ Immediately their widgets grew and the others shrunk. MagicHorse2

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Off they rode on their journey to find the princess. But what do you do to begin to find the Princess when no one else seems to know either. Perhaps the Horse will know what to do. Perhaps not. But they were determined to find out.

 

We have to decide to what is right and grin and bear the fear of being scrutinized by others.

Chapter 4 Land of Fairies and Pixies

Off though the air the horse rode with the Warrior and his widgets as the children rode their bikes below and Dragon and his widgets ran behind. ‘We are on our way to the land of the fairies and Pixies,’ announced the Magic Dream Horse.Off we go to TV Land

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When they reached the land of the Fairies and Pixies they encountered a Pixie chasing a Fairy in a cloud of magic.

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The Warrior asked the Fairy if they would help them find the Princess by looking around the land. The Fairy answered, ‘ I can’t,  the Pixie has just caught my heal.’

The Pixie yelled, ‘No way will I let him help you. The Evil King has too much power and I fear him. I will not let him help with your quest.’ FariesTalk

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ant and Bee stepped forward and addressed the Fairy and Pixie, ‘We have the torches of truth. Carry these lights and we can see truer, better. We will all look for foot prints or any change that might tell us where they went.’

Torch of Truth Warrior held Ant and Bee as they gave the fairy and pixie the torch of truth so they could look for clues to where the Princess had been taken.

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Spiedie yelled and the Pixie again yelled, ‘No way, we will not help but only lie.’

Dragon chimed in, ‘Bravo Spiedie, that’s my little buddy.’

The Kids knew they had to make a decision. That group Dragon was too big and it was scaring the Pixies.

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Edgar, Molly, Sue, and George confronted the others saying, ‘Your pocket Dragons are too big. You have to decide to make them shrink by cooperating with us. Then the group Dragon will shrink and Spiedie too. And then the Pixies will not be so afraid.’

‘Why should we,’ the others totted back.

‘So we can have this adventure. Unless we go on the adventure we will never know if it was worth it and we will all be too afraid to do anything and we will all be bored. Warrior has to lead with Dream Horse or the Pixies will be too afraid and will not help us nor let the Fairies help us. Please, cooperate.’

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Pixie shivered and confessed, ‘We will help but we are still afraid of the evil king.’

Horse with a pensive look replied, ‘Then we need to go to the land of the witches to get the shield of courage. Meanwhile, look for anything that has changed, what is the same as we go and what is different, and maybe we can see the path they took with the Princess, maybe she left signs for us to follow.’

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Fairies, with the Pixies behind, began their search close to the ground, among the darkness of piled leaves, to see if a clue was left by the Evil King when he hid his daughter.  Warrior and the horse headed for the Land of the Witches. Warrior and his Upper Nature Widgets had grow a little more. Off Again

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Chapter 5 Land of Whitches

 

Off they went to the land of Witches leaving the pixies and fairies to scour the land looking for clues and the kids on their bikes below. They seen the witches huts through a hole in the clouds. Down they went through the hole.

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There was smoke coming out of their roofs. The witches were making brews. The children on their bikes were not far behind.

 

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The kids were catching up to them as they came close to the door of the Evil Witch.

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They all stood outside the hut. Not sure what was inside. The Widgets and Horse looked at Warrior and Dragon waiting for them to move. An ominous danger seemed to be in the air.

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They all went inside and the Evil Witch snatched some of Larry’s hair and dropped it into her brew. A Ghostly apparition of his father arose from the brew. His hideous laugh scared them all. Macho and Rabbit grew along with Dragon and all his widgets.

The Ghost pointed at Larry and said,  ‘follow me or I will come after you and destroy you all.’ It then laughed hideously. ‘You, Larry, you were never any good, you will never be free of me,’ screeched the Ghost.

Larry ran outside and to the Good Witch’s hut yelling, ‘I need the shield of courage. Let’s ask the Good Witch.’

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They all followed him over to the other hut as the hideous ghost laughed behind them.

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The good witch took hair from each child and dropped it into the caldron. As it fell a ghostly apparition of Larry’s mom appeared. She said.’ Stick together as one, love each other as one, and keep close to the horse of dreams and you will prevail. Then I will give you the shield of courage and the sword of honor.’

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The children and widgets had a wave of love come over them all, like a spell, and in the place of the  ghost the sword of honor and the shield of courage rose up from the caldron. The Warrior and his widgets grew as the Dragon and his widgets shrank.

The Warrior Mounted the magic horse of dreams with the shield of Courage and the sword of Honor.

The children beseeched, ‘Where shall we go. We are lost. We do not yet know where the princess is.’

The horse said, ‘We will go to the land of the Wizards and seek out their directions.’

Off we go to Wizard Land

So off they go to land of Wizards with Warrior riding the dream horse out of the clouds with the Shield of Courage and the Sword of Honor. Dragon and his widgets were behind in the clouds and the kids below on their bikes were under the clouds.

 

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In reality the kids went to Charlotte’s Mom’s dive to see it they could help with getting Larry’s Dad to stop selling so many gadgets. They were addicted and loyal to Larry’s dad. So they went to Molly’s mom, the counselor, and all she could tell them was to love each other for courage, that love helps us do what we are afraid to do otherwise. 

 

 

Chapter 6 Land of Wizards

LAND OF WIZARDS

Off we go to Wizard Land

 

 

 

 

 

They soon see the Huts of the Wizards.

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They entered the land of Wizards. The Good wizard greeted them. He said the Fairies and Pixies had scoured the land and found the tower with the Princess in it over the Mountain on the other side. He jerked his magic wand and a map appeared. It showed a straight and narrow path up the Mountain.

‘But,’ warned the Good Widget, ‘the trail up the mountain is traitorous and hard to go up as the dream horse can not fly up nor climb but will have to he pushed and pulled up. But sense there are 8 kids, eleven widgets, a Warrior, a Dragon to help the Dream horse you should have no problem climbing up the Mountain.’

The Evil Wizard flicked his Magic Wand and pointed to the MAP below the mountain.

He said, their is a much easier trail, it may take longer but it is fun and easy.’

The map showed the trail to start on below the straight and narrow. It went into the dark woods in the opposite direction.

The Evil Wizard said, ‘On this trail you can all go by yourselves, you do not need the help of others to follow the path, you can all go at a different pace and take your time.’

‘How will we know where to go?’ asked Geru.

He flipped his magic wand and a CRYSTAL BALL appeared.

“This will show the way. Just look in it and it will show you what you want.’

The Good Wizard flicked his wand and a SACK appeared as he spoke and said, This (tax money) dust will keep the spell at obey. It will softened the spell for a while if it is sprinkled delicately on the town and they will be able to help you.’

 

 

Ant and Bee looked at the sack while Cuddles said, ‘Give the sack to Geru and Crow to spread over the land.’

But Spiedie seen the bag as Raccoon whispered, ‘It can all be ours and we will get rid of the spell on us and we can rule the town who is still under the spell. They will be our slaves.’

The good widget was about to say, ‘The dust only works when a little amount is sprinkled. If a lot is in anyone’s possession it makes the spell worse.’

But before he could say anything Crow whispered to Macho fear, ‘We need to steal the sack now or you may not ever get any of the Wizard dust.’

Macho fearful of loosing out on the dust pushed Cuddles away from the sac as Crow yelled, ‘We deserve it all.’

Spiedie covered the Warrior, and his Widgets with cob webs as Coyote ran over them and grabbed the sack before the good widgets could get it.

  Dragon grabbed the Crystal Ball and headed for the woods on the lower part of the map. His widgets, followed. The four bully children by instinct ran after them.

Dragon spit fire at George saying, ‘I will shrink you. We will get to the Princess before you and warn the Evil King that you are coming, and we will rule the city with the Evil King.’

Warrior lifted his shield of courage and Macho calmed down and no one shrunk. The Shield of Courage had protected them.

The four so called sissy kids and the warrior and the Upper Nature widgets would go up the Mountain by themselves. Wizard turned and told the Warrior to keep an eye out for Trolls as they got nearer to the Evil Kings Castle where the Princess is hidden away in a tower. And to remember there were good Elves that maybe able to help them in need.

Warrior, his widgets and the four kids on the horse of Dreams said good by to the Wizards and started up the Straight and Narrow path.

 

Chapter 7 Up the Mountain

Ant and Bee scouted ahead, Molly with Macho and Cuddles made sure the path was clear of all dangers, Geru flew above to see if their was an easier path and telling Sue if they needed to change their map. Edgar, Molly, Sue, George, Rabbit, and Turtle pulled and pushed The Dream Horse up the trail. The Warrior talked to them all so they each knew what the other was doing and would come to their aid if one needed more help.

The PATH was indeed hard as the Widgets and Warrior pushed The Horse of Dreams up the Mountain.

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At about half the way up the Mountain they came upon a cliff. There did not seem to be anyway around it or up it. Trolls were coming up behind them. They were trapped. They found a cave to hide in hoping the Trolls would not notice them and turn around and leave. The trolls were huge.

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They were not in the cave very long when they heard noises further in. Very quietly they explored and came upon a Dragon, a very huge Dragon. It was Dameon. He could smell their presence and began to roar.

“You are in my CAVE,” he bellowed. ‘The Trolls have found the entrance and are now behind you. You are Trapped. If you want passage to the other side you have to pay me in a sack of Wizard Dust.”

Warrior approached him boldly with the Shield of Courage and beseeched him saying, ‘Let me and my Dream Horse through so we can go back down the Mountain and obtain our Wizard Dust, as it has been taken by our friends. On my return you will let us through to climb up the rest of the Mountain.’

The Dragon agreed but added, ‘You must leave as hostage your Widgets and Children.” He would give him only the time it took for the HOUR GLASS to empty.He pointed to the exit for Mr. Do and the horse to take.

Warrior agreed and the Dragon let Warrior and Dream Horse through and retained the Widgets and Children. Warrior was in another trap, he had to obtain the Wizard Dust for the Dragon, the same dust he needed to sprinkle towns folks for help. He also knew the Dragon would not release his Widgets and Children. He now had to go down the Mountains and find and fight his own Group Dragon and return to fight Dameon in the cave and the Trolls.  He had no help to get his Dream Horse back up the Mountain.

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Off they went down the Mountain, on a trail that did not pass the Trolls, passed the Wizard Huts, and down into the Easy Path. It was wide and appeared to be easy but there were huge holes, it was dark and eerie, and there were paths everywhere leading no where. It was a huge maze. But where were the others? Time was running out, the hour glass was letting sand fall.

DESPERATELY THEY SEARCHED They came upon some spider webs, the Warrior, also Consciousness said, ’Spiedie will be hiding under these.’

They began to clear out the webs and sure enough they found Spiedie and Ragde. Spiedie and Ragde were glad to see them as they had been in the web a long time alone not knowing where to go as they could not see clearly but all was distorted. They climbed up on to the Horse.
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They all came to a hill and a path going into the valley.

Geru said, ‘Raccoon and Charlotte, his pet, want to keep all the Wizard Dust, so they will be weighted down, they will take the path going down.’ So down they rode. Sure enough they found Raccoon and Charllette. They too were happy to see someone, the sack of Wizard Dust was very heavy and they were tired of dragging it. They too got on the Horse.

They had the dust and could now go back. But they needed more help to again get the Dream Horse up the Mountain. The Warrior, Consciousness, said, ‘Quiet, I hear Crow in the distance.  So off they flew following the squadk of Crow.

‘Where is Destiny?’ inquired Warrior?

Crow said she is following the Crystal Ball to untold treasures, but every time she gets there someone ahead of her has taken the prize. You will find her below this tree crying as she threw the crystal ball and it broke into a million pieces.’

They all flew down and she too climbed on the Horse. The children were heavy and the Horse was beginning to pant. They had yet to find Larry, Coyote, and Dragon.

Warrior exclaimed, ‘Be very quiet and if you hear of a fight there will be Larry and Coyote and Dragon.’

They all got very quiet. A fellow was going by and they asked him if he had heard of any fights around. He directed them to the North but cautioned them that the fight was very fierce.

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Off they flew to the North. Soon they seen a ruckus up ahead as a lot of dust was in the air. Sure enough it was Larry and Coyote fighting their own Group Dragon. (Fighting themselves?)As Coyote and Larry’s pocket Dragon had grown, so had the Group Dragon. The battle was out of hand, Dameon had grown huge and his flames from his mouth were red hot. Time was running out. Something had to be done. Warrior had to make a decision to act. He decided to use the Group Dragon to fly back to the cave. But he had to subdue the Dragon. (Moral of story, you have to use your Upper Nature to use your Lower Nature, or survival mode, correctly.)

Warrior told the kids to take out their pocket Warriors to fight the Pocket Dragons to distract them so he could fight the Group Dragon, that this had to be a coordinated fight. They all needed to fight together if they were to win. The pocket Warriors grew as the pocket Dragons began to shrink, and along with them the Group Dragon began to shrink and loose his fire.

Warrior said, ‘I have to outsmart the Group Dragon (with the UN). When I have the Dragon Down I want you all to jump on him, that includes Horse. I will yell NOW.’

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As the pocket Warriors fought the pocket Dragons Spiedie covered the Dragon’s eyes with webs, Raccoon Distracted him with the Bag of Dust, and Crow entangled his legs with a vine making him stumble. Warrior took three big breaths of air and lunged at the Dragon putting his arms around his neck.

’NOW!’ he yelled. As the Dream Horse, widgets, kids, and picket Warriors jumped on Dragon, Warrior cut the vines with his sword of Honor and away they flew directing. The hour glass was about empty.

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They flew back to the mountain to save the others. (Moral of story, we have to recognize we need help, repent of past behavior, have humility, fight our old urges, and be renewed)

They had to made it back before the Sand hour was up. A lot of Trolls had came and were watching the cave so no one would escape. Dameon still would not allow them to pass. He wanted their Widget Dust, all of it. That would mean the spell would go on forever and eventually everyone would be prisioners of Dameon and very very sad.

 

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They had made it back before the Sand hour was up. But Dameon still would not allow them to pass, he would not even let them return down the Mountain. He wanted their Widget Dust, all of it. That would mean the spell would go on forever and eventually everyone would be prisioners of Dameon and very very sad.

A lot of Trolls had came and were watching the cave so no one could escape. The Group Warrior knew that Dameon was too big for eight children, their widgets, and himself. Even if their Group Dragon pitched in Dameon was too big and powerful for them all to escape.

They needed a plan.  They needed to sneak out to get Empatha’s help, and sprinkle the dust on the city to make an army big enough to continue up the Mountain to free the Princess to Wed the Prince and bring peace.

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Group Warrior told the kids, widgets, and Dragon that ‘Unless we can get past Dameon we will all be trapped in the cave for ever. But if we all work together and make a plan and followed my directions, to coordinate us, we may be able to sneak by Dameon and the Trolls. This is plan.’

Warrior exclaimed in a very quiet but firm voice, ‘We will wait for Dragon to go to sleep. We will need to be very observant and careful, Warrior and his crew is good at that. Dameon and the Trolls will not respond to love, logic, or our fighting so sometimes we have to fool them so we are not the victim of their foolishness, so we need group Dragon and gang to help. So we must all work together, warriors and dragons, to sneak out without Dameon awakening and taking our sack and without the Tolls stopping us’

‘We need keen eyes and ears to find our way in the dark and not stumble,’ cautioned Warrior.

Bee, Ant and Edgar volunteered to lead the group.

‘We need someone in tune with danger, who can tell us what to look out for, and who knows when to love, so we do not get angry and do something to wake up Dameon or alert the Troll guards that we are leaving by acting threatening.’

Molly stepped forward and said, ‘I, Macho, and Cuddles can do that.’

We need a good planner, to help us do this right,’ added Warrior.

Sue declared, ‘Geru and I will asses the whole situation and help guide the others where to safely step.’

Warrior also stated, ‘We need to be patient but brave and keep up the pace. We need someone to set the pace so we do not run into each other.’

George said, ‘Rabbit will bounce where we need to go, and Turtle will keep him patient and slow him down when needed.’

We also need to disguise ourselves.

Spiedie and Ragde chimed in, ‘We can do that. We will weave a tube of webs around us.’

Charlette and Racoon stepped up, ‘We can appeal to the greed of the Trolls by putting some of the Dust near them so they turn their heads.’

‘Then we need to somehow get them to to think all is ok,’ said Warrior.

Destiny and Crow together spited out, ‘We are good at that. We will blame Dameon for falling asleep.’

Warrior continued, ‘Someone needs to steal the Bag of dust from Dameon to be able to do that.

Larry and Coyote volunteered, ‘We are good at that.’

Warrior continued, ‘Ant and Bee lead, follow the leader, the one in front of you, Group Dragon will fly over his crew and I over mine. I will help all of you and Group Dragon to not over or under do things. So keep an eye on me for any last minute changes.’

So they made their plans and when evening came and Dameon fell asleep. Spiedie spun a web and Ragde helped Spiedie cover Dameon’s eyes. Charlotte and Raccoon Sprinkled Some Dust in the far corner and the Trolls turned their heads toward it and relaxed. As the Kids, widgets, the Dream Horse and Warrior slid by them with the sack Crow told the Trolls that the one who did not move the longest gets the dust.

(Lying and manipulating is only allowed when survival of self and others is really in danger.)

Chapter 8 Empatha and the Escape

 

 

Back to Town for help

Free at last. They headed back to the town and to the King.                                                                                                                                                              

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Everyone had seen them coming and gathered around the town. Group Warrior, Group Dragon, Dream Horse, kids, and widgets flew over Empatha, the people, the King, his soldiers and Elves next to the soldiers, and the Prince sprinkling them with Wizard Dust to awaken them enough to appeal to them, to form an army and go after the Princess.

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So the King, his Elves, the town folks, everyone’s pocket warriors and group warriors, Empatha, and some of the towns folks all flew or marched to the caves. Dameon the Dragon had shrunk and he and the Trolls had gone to the Castle, where the Princess was in the Tower, to help the Evil King fight the on coming army now lead by the Good King. (Jobs for the people take away apathy.)   Off they all flew to the top of the Mountain to save the Princess from the Tower and save the City by ending the spell the Evil King had put on the City.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A GREAT BATTLE began, everyone against the Trolls and bad dragons. It was a tie. No one was stronger then the other. With such a big battle and the Evil King so close, the children became afraid. This was the moment they all had worked toward, they did not want to botch it up. The Wizard Dust would work to soften people up to do what was right for only so long. If the battle went wrong the The Evil King would have them killed on the very spot. But they were not trapped, they could turn and leave the battle to the rest. The battle may go on until all were dead but they, the kids, would be safe. The Sissy Kids’ Geru widget said, ‘Listen to Cuddles, love, and not Macho’s fear.’

They stopped and thought and felt the love and muttered, ‘We must do what is right. We must try.’

The Bully kids listened to their Crow. Crow said ‘Listen to the other kids.’ Seeing their courage and not wanting to abandon them or to run scared  muttered to themselves, ‘We must try and kick butt.’ All eight kids looked at each other and smiled, ‘We have cooperated before. Lets do this.’

They knew they had to be smart about getting past the trolls and find the tower. They all needed to work together. Edgar said,  ‘We can not be seen.’

Ragde said, ‘Dress up like trolls.’

They all got behind the Shield of Courage and muttered ‘We must do what is right.’

They walked past the troll guards nodding as if they were friends.

Sue said, ‘Look, Dream Horse and the widgets are searching for the Tower with the Princess in it.’

Sue exclaimed,  ‘Look over there, Geru has found the Tower and is pointing at it.’

George with excitement spurted out, ‘We know where to go.’

The kids, with their shield of Courage and Sword of Honor weaved their way through the Trolls into the gates of the Castle, and through the Trolls in the Castle Court yard to the back Tower.

InTower They went into the tower and climbed to the top to the door where the princess was. It had a large lock on it. There were two guards one on each side of the door.

Larry wanted to fight them but George said. ‘Be patient that they are too strong.’

Sue said, ‘We need to out smart them.’

Destiny said, ‘We are dressed as Trolls, let’s tell them we are the new guards.’

Meanwhile Edgar and Ragde sprinkled Wizard Dust on the guard so they would relax. Edgar and Ragde then went up to them and in deep rough voices spit out,’ We are here to take your place so you can leave.’

The Two Troll turned and walked away.

Molly and Charlotte exclaimed in delight, ‘Now we can free the Princess, the lock is ours to open.’

But how? They did not have a key. They each shed their Troll clothes and tried to break the lock with the Sword of Honor. But to no avail. The Sword just bounced off.

An Elf was near by and said, ‘The Sword of Honor can break the lock but must be held by some one who can clearly see, like the Fairies, and see what others have hidden, like the Pixies.  By someone who has great love, like the good witch, yet understand those without love, such as the bad witch. By someone who knows right from wrong, as the Good Wizard, yet can understand those who do not.  And by someone who patiently does what is right and is not aggressive yet can deal with those who are aggressive. You each have one of those talents, cooperation makes you all stronger and able to accomplish the task, if all eight of you strike the lock together with the sword it will break.’

 PrinsesFreeThen they all looked at each other and smiled,  they all took ahold of the sword and together struck the lock. It broke and they opened the tower door. The Princess and Prince, who had just arrived, were reunited. The battle was still going on as they stole away into the night to get married and end the spell which would also end the great battle. Peace was restored to the land.

Chapter 9 Magic is Gone, Now What

The Son of the King seen his princess and took her by the hand. The sight so inspired the city that more and more townsfolk’s joined the good kings army. Their pocket warriors had grown, their Group Warriors were growing as Dameon and the pocket and Group Dragons had shrunk or were shrinking. The immense army of the Good King was so overwhelming and brave with renewed strength that the Evil Kings army had to surrender.  They all flew back to the city as they celebrated the wedding. And a grand wedding it was. The wedding reception was a fourth of July celebration with fireworks filling the sky. Peace had returned to the land once more.      

 

 

 

 

 

 

They knew with the marriage of the Prince and Princess the cities curse was over, so would their magic be over. The Faries and Pizies, Witches Huts and Wizards Shacks, and Elves and Trolls were faded and gone. Soon the spell would be totally broken. The Dream Horse and widgets were fading and their real pets were fading back into real life.  Life would return to the usual day to day operation, how boring. They did not want to return. Edgar, Molly, Sue, and George would again be doing their homework and helping their parents keep up the house.

Ragde, Charlotte, Destiny, and Larry began to feel life will be boring again. Without an adventure what would they do but to create problems to be solved. They would again make life miserable for Edgar, Molly, Sue, and George. 0D53BJ Back The Dragon kids began to get rough and rowdy, and cut up, and tease the other four. ‘Mama Kids, sissy kids vs Daddy’s tough kids to the end.’

The Sissy, Momma kids laughed and said, ‘Your Pocket Dragons and the Group Dragon are growing and you will get lost on the Easy Path of Life like you did before. Don’t forget so easily your Dragons without our help hurt everyone. Warriors in the end win.’

But,” they retorted back, ‘the Dragon’s saved the Warriors who flew them to the cave and the city. Dragons could hold more weight then the horse. And a Dragon has to be stronger then the Warrior to do that.’

‘Yes,’ they answered, ‘The Dragon has to be strong enough to help the Warriors, but not so strong as not to be guided by the Warrior. On his own the Group Dragon was as lost as the rest of you. And without the clear wits of the Warrior you were not able to control the Group Dragon.’

‘Ok, that is true,’ they said thinking deeply, ‘what if, what if we made an agreement. We will help you if you help us.’

‘Good idea,’ said Grandma, ‘you could have lots of adventures. Together Warriors and Dragons can both have fun. Dad’s protect the Moms and the Moms protect the kids, so you can help each other. And look, look who has been returned.’

Post One: Battle of the Wills

The battle of defiant children is all about the battle of the wills, yours or theirs. That is human nature. Children are no different then adults. They want their way. And they will do what it takes of get their way. They watch and study you and then implement their plans. That is human. If you let their ill conceived plans work on and off or all the time you will get a persistently naughty child. When their ill plan works on and off it is very hard to change their minds on it. It is like a gamblers addiction. They do not know when they will win but just that they are bound to win sometime and so failure is just part of the game.

The best kept secret is that children want to please you. It is in their nature, makeup, evolution to please you. If it was not, parents would of refused to have children and the human race would of disappeared. So what is the switch, the switch from wanting to fight you for their own will to wanting to please you. Or you could ask what is the switch to turn on their desire to please?

If they can get their way by pleasing you, it is a win win situation. They will gladly follow you. That is the switch, not a paddle to whip, but a on and off switch. How do you set it up so they only get their way if they please you? That depends on your personality and theirs. This is where it gets complicated. If the two of you have no personality quirks or problems the switch is automatic. You do not have to do much. You ask in a pleasing convincing way and they do as they are asked without any fuss. “Jonny, would you please go get the piece of candy box I brought you lying on the table and we will open the locked box so you can enjoy it.”

“Locked box? What is the locked box? Pandora’s box? Oh, dear me, what are we getting into? Come on now, lets get honest here. You encouraged us and then dropped us.”

Don’t fear, it is not that hard. The lock is how to appeal to your better nature. The question then come to, ‘what is your better nature?’ ‘How do I convey to them that I have a better nature?’ ‘Do I have a better nature?’

Well, this forum will address those issues.

There is really only four things to remember when working with people, your self, others, or children. Improve or change these four things for the better and people and will love and respect you, especially your children, and they will want to please you.They are the four steps the brain goes through over and over like a feedback loop and in this order: Perception, emotional reaction of fear or love, beliefs and plans of action, habits and skills of action. So we will look at and change if possible:

1) THE WAY YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN PERCEIVE THE WORLD OF SELF AND OTHERS.
2) THE WAY YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN FEEL ABOUT THE WORLD OF SELF AND OTHERS.
3) THEIR BELIEFS YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN HOLD ABOUT THE WORLD OF SELF AND OTHERS
4) THE HABITS, SKILLS, AND ACTIONS YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN HAVE TOWARDS THE WORLD OF SELF AND OTHERS.

That may sound like a tall order. Not really. Its harder to explain it then to do it. You were by nature designed to do it and to do it with good results. People just sort of learn a few harsh perceptions, harsh feelings, unrealistic beliefs about self and others, and get into some lousy habits. All that may be complicated and vary between people but the process of healing or improving is a lot easier, remember it is natural. You just got to let yourself be natural as it was before you got into bad habits of perception, emotions, thought, and habits.

You were born a delightful and lovable little creature. But your hardware, by default, was set to survival mode, lie, cheat, blame, and fight if life did not proceed with loving gentle parents that meet your needs to up to the first three years. Loving parents will set your Upper Nature of optimistic, loving, trust, and obedience as the foundation of your personality and abusive parents will set your Lower Nature of survival as the foundation of your personality and then it becomes the playing field for the battle of the wills.

But before you get discouraged, the child can heal, the younger the better, but even the rebellious adult can transform. We will go over these issues. Your comments, questions, or input will lead the discussion and posts in the direction you want.

Post Two: The Battle of The Wills Begins Inside Us All

THE BATTLE BEGINS INSIDE ALL OF US

 

 The Battle of the Wills with our kids starts within us and within our children. We have an Upper Nature that is ran by our conscious choice, our conscience. The Upper Nature perceives the world (Ant & Bee), has an emotions response to it (Macho and Cuddles), plans what to do (Geru), and carries out those plans (Rabbit and Turtle) that are approved by our Consciousness. It is so simple and usually works quite efficiently. It has helped us build our sciences, our families, our world of research and literature, and our houses and cities.

 

 

But we also have a Lower Nature, a survival mode, that can really save us in dangerous situations, and so it is quicker to respond. Fear usually sets it off. But it can dominate.The problem is the Lower Nature is faster to respond then the Upper Nature and sees way too many things and other people as dangerous and so wants to deceive (Spiedie), be greedy Raccoon), blame (Crow), and fight (Coyote) when it is unneeded.

 

Our Lower Natures can also be whats behind the battle of the wills inside of us that wants to fight the battle of the wills with our children. What a mess it can be. It creates most of our daily crises and takes up a lot of our time and energy that leads to nowhere or to the next crises. If the Lower Nature is stronger or bigger, by genetics or learned, then the Upper Nature, expect lots of bad decisions by Dragon, our alter ego.

 

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The battle starts when we, or our children, do something that, like a flashback, brings up a memory, an old emotional response to that memory, a justifications of what we or others did in the past, and the old habits of fighting back. It could be that as children we were severely punished for taking a cookie and told we were no good and would amount to nothing if we were not severely spanked.  So we are on auto pilot. We jump into the past and fear that if we don’t do something drastic to our kids that the crises will continue into the future and grow worse. So we are all ramped up to stop the nonsense now no matter what it takes.

 

We quickly rehearse the past actions, add to them our present opportunity to act, and plunge into the battle before we stop and think. We have told our our children to look before they leap as we leap into the battle ourselves before deliberating properly. I add the word properly to infer we may not have stopped and thought about it in as productive a way as we could have, or as we want to teach our children to do. We want to teach our children how their Conscious Choice can stop or step on the Lower Nature. So we too, must stop our Lower Natures from doing as our own parents or teachers may have taught us to do irrationally.

 

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Now, you rightfully may be thinking, just what is the proper way, as you feel I may be plunging into the subject without having considered your pride and dignity. That is not intended. But, it is not in our evolutionary genetic makeup to stop and think. Yes, it takes time or experience, emotional maturity, wisdom, and trial and error experience to begin to know what to do each and every time. And even if we have everything it takes, still, maturity has a way of dropping off or we forget to use it, or it does not always seem to work in all situations.

 

To be more fair to you I will add, maturity is a life time learning experience as to when and where and how to use it. It is a very complex formula. So I and will try and outline it for you in simple four steps, not necessarily so much for your own behavior but to help you teach your children, especially our more mischievous children who may have been born with, or learned to have, a more active stronger Lower Natures. So bear with me until I get the next posts out.

 

 

 

 

 

Post Three: The Mechanism of Change, We Get to Improve Too.

So how do we gain maturity as fast and efficiently as possible and pass it on to our children? Lets look at each of the four steps our brains go through to answer that. The steps again are Perception, emotional response, planning, and acting. We have to hone in on better perception, workable emotionally response, better maps or beliefs to make a plan of action, and better skills and habits.  The four steps need to communicate with and compliment each other, work together, coordinate together, like all the husky dogs that pull a dog sled, and keep the Lower Nature animals small and ineffective unless we need them in a dangerous situation.

 

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Consciousness does that for us. That is if consciousness knows how. Consciousness is blind, emotionless, ignorant, and helpless without the four step widgets. And the four step widgets are blind to each other without communicating. Ant and Bee tell Macho (fear) and Cuddles (love) what is out there in the world, and Macho and Cuddles then tell Ant and Bee to look for danger or love objects. Then Geru chimes in with advice to do so or not to do so and adds what he/she thinks should be done. At this point Turtle yells patience as Rabbit expounds what he can or can not do, what his skills are. Geru then prompts Rabbit to do more, try more. Macho may yell Danger and the Lower Nature wants to take over to deceive, be greedy, blame, and or fight. The back and forth dialogue has no end or possible patterns. It can run like clockwork or it can be a complicated mess if Consciousness, Mr/Ms Do, can not focus and coordinate all the parts to solve the problems or reach goals. With the Upper Nature in Chaos Dragon can then take advantage of the situation and take the lead.

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To be healthy we must balance all the widgets, keep them working together to accomplish our mission. Like a well ran dog sled, even the Lower Nature widgets.

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To add to the complication of unbalance, each situation we find ourselves in can expound on or limits those possibilities and create more dead ends. And the most complicated situations of all are other people. There is nothing more complex in the Universe then another person’s mind. How can we understand others when we hardly understand ourselves. How can the brain see beyond itself to see itself and how it interacts with the the bigger then them Universe? Mr/Ms Do (consciousness) tackles that problem too. As he/she gets wiser so do we.

‘Situations?’ you say. ‘That’s a new step isn’t it?’

Well, you may be saying that yes, it is a fifth step. But wait, there are three more steps.

‘What? Three more?’

Yes, and together with situations that makes four more steps.

‘OK, what are the next three steps?’

The new steps are really just the original four steps but reinterpreted in a situation. So we have the biological traits of the child or we could say their predisposition to perceive, the family emotional dynamics the child was raised in, the belief systems they have, and the past, present, and foreseen future situations. In other words biology and genetics is what makes up a lot of a person’s perceptual ability, emotional limits, thinking levels, and potential actions, family shapes our emotional responses, belief systems help us plan what to do, and situations dictate which skills or habits we can use. So, really it is still four steps: perception, emotional response, thinking or planning, and actions.

‘What about Dragon and his crew? Is that not four extra steps?’

Dragon is only our alter consciousness or alter ego or our negative side. Tinted perception, selfishness, weird thoughts of blaming others, and aggressive responses are just the negative survival mode of the four steps. To perceive the lie, feel self centeredness, justify by blaming others, and acting without considering the other person’s Upper Nature is the job of the Lower Nature in situations where survival is at stake. It is fast and awkward but it still only the four steps; perception, emotions, thought or planning, and action.

So we perceive according to our genetic makeup, our raising, our beliefs, and our skills and habits in past, present, and perceived future situations. We perceive according to our genetics, our raising, our beliefs, and our skills and habits from past, present, and future. Our mood is dependent on our perceptions, emotional experiences, beliefs, and actions. We think according to our genetic potential, family dynamics, belief systems, and situational possibilities from past, present, and future. And we act according to genetic makeup, family habits, beliefs, and situational possibilities, past, present, and future.

All these variables change the size and strength of influence each widget has. Those variation make us who we are, when and where. We have a genetic predisposition that can be altered by accidents or drugs, by family, by beliefs, and by experience and situations. When widgets vary so does our limits and possibilities. Here is an example of the widgets of a typical Nurd, one who is detailed, a bit detached, concrete thinker, and inactive.  Perception and patience rule and direct a lot of the show and all others are drug along. To help such a person fit into the mainstream we would need to calm down the focus on details, beef up their empathy, expand their concepts, and build a fire under their rabbit. If the Lower Nature is too active that too will have to be calmed.

 

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Its evident that babies have genetic makeups, but until they grow, experience family, learn beliefs, and habits they are quit helpless and at a loss as to what to do. By nature their Lower Natures must be strong to survive. In young children the Consciousness is not as developed yet as their Dragon as Dragon is more hard wiring and conscious awareness is more learned so takes time and discernment. And this is where parents come in. Parents shape their children’s consciousness as they help develop their four step widgets, especially the Upper Nature.

To see the process we need to look at genetics, at family dynamics, at the structure of belief systems, and at skills and habits needed for situations of ourselves and our children. We then decide what we need to do to be able to help our children be able to control themselves so we do not have to police them constantly.

When you connect them all, Upper Nature and Lower Nature in real life situations, and  you will be really cooking at the game of productive human interaction and communication and behavioral prediction.

So lets begin to look at how to change the limits of our children, what is needed to change them according to our own genetic, family, beliefs, and habits. 

 I will start with Infants, then toddlers, next young and older children, followed by adolescents.

 

 

 

That is the number one place parents come in. Consciousness coordinates with others and their widgets of perception, emotions, thoughts, and habits.

So lets start with step one perception, to see, hear, feel, taste, and smell the situation, to know what really happened.

That is not so simple, and may never really be completely known. But we can look at patterns, trends, and habits of others to begin to understand what they are doing by what they tended to do in the past. This can also be used to predict what they may do in the future. But the battle of the wills is shaped also by situations, that keep changing. So we have to look at the patterns and trends of the situations people are found in. Kids tend to act differently with mom then dad, with school then home, with their friends then strangers, a church then at a party. So the patterns of people’s behaviors changes within different situations. The brat at home may be an angel at school, or vice versa.

 

 

1) Battle of the Wills Infants.

When cells began they had one will, one purpose, one goal, TO EAT.Cells Eat

And when the cells began to stick together and even begin to make complex organisms, each of those cells had one will, one purpose, one goal, TO EAT. Without the will the organism is not as likely to survive. We do not want to break any child’s will by overpowering them with our own. We want to enhance and direct their will with love.Still Food

And when that baby is born, every cell in its body had one will, one purpose, one goal, TO EAT.  There is nothing you can do to change that.

This will does transfer to other things as the infant grows such as the will to walk, will to talk, will to get all their needs met. If you break the will of a child you have taken away part of their will to live to the fullest.

BABYBut human babies, toddlers, children, adolescents, and adults also love many other things, a lot. One of those items is a loving parent, a mother figure. Some babies can not live without them. It is that bond that is the key to bend their wills enough to include what your will wants also.

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Infants are born with immature Uper Natures, fear is their strongest widget. What an infant needs is all their needs met as quickly and gently as possible.

Stage One: The Perceptual stage is their main stage until they are 10 years old. This is how they absorb the world. Perceptual they need to stare in your eyes and smile back as you smile. They love to hear enthusiastic voices and movement. They will learn then to look at and try to mimic and thus learn to  manipulate their world.  Lots of hugs and kisses. Dance with them in your arms. Sing to them. Show them lots of brightly colored toys and things around them. Let them play with the light switch. They will make the connection.

Stage Two: Emotionally what they are learning is love and trust. Give them your word and keep it. Lots of love and hugs and ‘I love you’ over and over. Too much fear will develop the Lower Nature, that will pop up later when it is able to make itself visible in behaviors.

Stage Three: Intellectually they are learning to handle the world and will by nature begin to understand gravity by throwing things. They are learning distance and space by moving around. As they move their arms and legs and touch things their inner rhythm and tempo will measure the space and time in handling things. They are making a model of the world inside by handling everything and putting things to their mouths. They are also listening to your words and implanting the rhythm of basic words.

Stage Four: In the fourth stage they are discovering their MYSELF and physically learning mobility. Their Lower Nature is not very active other then to cry hard, older infants may hit, they may ignore you if they feel slighted, and they may withdraw and not respond at all but fall asleep when they are very afraid. Fear is their biggest widget and is what will lead to the development of the Lower Nature too soon so do not scare you infants.

If your infant spends their first few months or more crying from unknown pain, usually from colic gas, you want to get out your best walking shoes and start pacing back and forth with them trying to comfort them. My first Grandson cried so hard and long his parents took turns pacing with him while the other one wore ear plugs and head phones to try and get some sleep until their turn to pace. This went on for seven months. But it paid off. As a young adult he is the most caring and loving young man I know of. The child from hell turned into the loving saint. All that attention paid off.

 

2) Battle of the Wills Terrible Two’s Toddlers

Stage One: Toddlers are older infants. They have mastered a lot but they still need lots of perceptual experiences, lots of hugs and kisses, exploration of their world will include more outdoor fun, they are learning to value what you value especially other people, and they are doing more physically. But what has developed more is their Lower Nature, they have learned the word and meaning of NO. They are trying it out and can have tantrums. Tantrums tend to be from feelings of being overwhelmed but they can learn to use them to get their way if you give them that result. Instead you need to ignore the tantrum until it is over and some time has passed. Then you want to hold them more often and for longer periods. Your touch and affection will help their Upper Nature get control again and act more productively.

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Stage Two: Toddlers can hoard toys, collect things, and be selfish with other toddlers. That is ok but you can encourage more Upper Nature behaviors by modeling them and giving hugs and kisses for following your example. They can learn good habits. But only at their pace. To push things too soon or too long will frustrate them and force them into their budding Lower Nature of anger.

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 Stage Three: If they are able to talk in phrases, sentences, or multiple words you can get a better idea of how they think. They are making judgements of you and those that can talk can tell you what they think you are doing wrong. Some between one and two may have a running list of things you did that they did not like. So be fair and loving.

Stage Four: Their Myself is getting bigger along with the other widgets. Remember they are really just bigger Infants. Do not expect too much but don’t do to little. Show them things, share joy and emotions with them, explain things, help them do things. They are basically absorbing sounds, sights, tastes, smells, textures, words and emotions beyond their understanding that they will make sense of later. Its a memory task, they are building memory of these things. They will put it together better latter.

 

 

3) Battle of the Wills Young Children

This is where the battle really begins. Children, ages three to eleven are the most productive years in regards to teaching them your family culture, relationship rules, the basic world, and your values. It is the age of beginning to understand you and believe you. This is the age range you want to a lot of varied things. If you ignore this age range and let them raise themselves and only interact with their peers they will be naive, overly shy or precocious, they will share their ignorance with each other and their Lower Natures will probably dominate over their Upper Nature as the Lower Nature is more innate and hardwired but the Upper Nature takes a lot of care, learning, and intelligent planning

 

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Stage One: Books, and more books. Computers are great inventions but books are more hands on, they can tumble with them, take them in the tub with them, maul them, and rip them apart. Yes, they are not interactive on the type, but kids can tough and smell the paper and feel like they can make a book too. They write on them, color on them, and do all sorts of things we do not want our electronics to go through. Electronics are ok too. Kids can even be read to. But nothing beats curling up into mom or dad’s lap with a book and being read to with maybe even the family cat or dog in their arms if not their teddy bear. Don’t forget the cookies and drinks.

Read all the kiddy books in the library that interest them. Go weekly and check out a dozen or so. They are really good for helping the child touch the world that is out of their reach otherwise. Around five or so begin to read them the larger books, the classic literature books. They will understand more then you think. Kids have unbelievable memories for collecting bits and pieces of our world that they will put together and make sense later.

Stage Two: Pets are great for teaching a concept that they are biologically not programed to finish until their twenties, empathy.

When a child hurts or is too rough with an animal cuddle the child and the animal and talk about how the animal and child feels as you comfort them both demonstrating how to handle animals.

Fear is still very big in children, natures way of keeping them safe. They may love horror movies but keep it at a minimum. Children below the age of 11 should not be playing kill them games on electronic devices. If they show blood and gore it is too hard on them. Studies show that because they can not distinguish real from unreal it is like putting them on the front line of a war. It will activate the survival mode and the Lower Nature can click in. But more devastating is the shock of death and anxiety parts of the brain can shrink. You don’t want them to have Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome in the name of fun.

Stage Three: I always did science projects with the kids when we usually think they are too young. They are little sponges. But don’t do directions of frogs or other animals. They are not ready for that shock. However, you can get the plastic version that take show what living things have inside. They love those.

When it comes to gifts always include what their passion of the moment is. If thats cars get cars, if it is art get lots of it, if they want to be a fireman well, get that stuff. You want to teach them how to follow their passions. How to collect or work with their productive inclinations. They will change over time but you will begin to see their pattern, if they lean toward music. art, science, history, and on and on. One of my son’s loved music and does to this day recording and publishing, another loved philosophy. How did I know he did? Because he loved role playing games with different lands and cultures along with reading thick books of stories about the same. That is thinking games that explore the human psychic. Sure enough, he obtained a master’s degree in philosophy. The third child love to build and was very practical. He went into business but always works on his houses to improve the. The musician son also builds, even more and improves but his love is music.

Stage Four: Gymnastics, sports, hiking, camping, what ever floats their boat. My philosophical child had nothing to do with any of that and was drug along for the sake of the other two, otherwise I may not have ventured out much with him. To this day he is a homebody, Mr. Mom to his kids. Every kid is so different. Play it by ear but do offer as much as you can to them.

Home routines are great for some kids and chaos for others. But don’t forget about your own sanity. You may have to impose more routine then they want.

THE BATTLE: The battle is to get them to clean their rooms. They need help. Clean with them giving them small chores. Don’t expect them to do it on their own. Very few children have the ability to plan ahead and execute the plan if it is not innate. Yes they can plan what they are playing with and follow through. But play is natures true teacher. Nature does not want us or animals to waste time on tasks that do not lead to future survival. So young animals, like young children, wrestle a lot and are very curious. There is no room there for clean your room, what is room a youngster would have in nature. Their parents take care of them. Kittens don’t even bath themselves until about three years old, the equivalent to an older teenager. If parents bath their kittens they smell more like momie and she can find them easier.

Kids are not lazy, they are just genetically programed for survival, survival 60,000 years ago or even earlier, the primordial goo that was looking for something to eat.

4) Battle of the Wills Older Children

Step Three: We want to teach our children that not all is what it appears to be and to ask questions. Before the age of ten children usually can not tell reality from fantasy but many question their existence. When one of my 7 year old grandson’s had figured out there is no Santa Clause I asked if the tooth fairy was real. ‘Of course,’ he announced, ‘I have proof.’ His hefty little hand held out a Canadian quarter with a picture of the fairy. He had found it under his pillow where he had placed his tooth.

Children need to learn to be fair. They are very good at knowing when we are not fair to them but they have a hard time translating that to others. Pets are great lesson givers on how to be loving and gentle to the inept. They are great for teaching empathy. Transferring that to other kids or adults can be innate lessons on compassion. Animals are easier to understand as adults are very complicated to them. Until they are adults they will never really understand what we go through.

 

Kids will believe anything before the age of ll.

How to self correct, the turtle for little ones. Discipline and Love both.

 

But keep on helping them understand the world.  I was not very old when an older brother told me there was no end to the universe because if we came to the end we could open a door and there would be more space behind it. That concept stayed with me to this day. Einstein began think about his theory of relativity when very young as he watched a train go by at high speed but the passengers moved around with ease.

Young children ask a million questions, a good time to give accurate answers as long as they do not scare them.

Step One: Teaching children to stop and observe without thinking to just observe the patterns. To look at what is the same and what is different. To see if things change because of different factors such as gender, age, time of day, time of week, month, or year. Factors can be weather, people involved, festivities, and as you get more  sophisticated such as politics or beliefs. At this point step three of being fair see step two

Step Two: Teaching children, who are not real judgmental anyway, how to view others from different angles so they do not become judgmental. I like to teach a way to look at others. Children show distinct intolerance to the actions of others. They begin to not want to go to religious events, or school stating they have no reason for it.

 

5) Battle of the Wills Adolescents

God help us, this is the age where step two, emotions, now begin to develop. Remember, stage three of reason has not yet blossomed nor has productive behaviors. This is the age of Drama King and Drama Queen that know it all but have not a clue. Modern times are to blame for the great disconnect of body and reality. Our reality is much different then when the brain was developed to handle the ancient, really ancient, human conditions. Kids this age probably, like their counter animals types, get married and have babies to shape them up in a world of live and learn or die. They had a community or village to help them. Boys were taught to hunt and girls to search for berries and roots to cook. What a happy little village it was.

Now boys hunt on the internet and girls practice drama with their mothers over the boyfriend who dresses like the dead. Nature is attracting them to the underbelly of the earth as if they were out hunting and learning to live through death valley. War was expected of them if needed. Now they war on the x box or other device. All the teenagers are out there hanging  around trying to create their own little tribe when the needed task is to be in school. They see little to nothing of value as they innately can not see why they would need that info in a dog eat dog world of brute survival. They recreate that primitive world. It is ‘Lord of the Flies’ made flesh and shoved down the throats of their parents.

The main drive of teenagers often feels like they are out to trip over their parents until their parents get on their knees and ask forgiveness for not teaching them how to survive in a modern world of complexity. And, well, their is some truth to that. Not all teenagers will act out so vividly, but they all seem to be fascinated by other teens who do and never are caught trying to get their peers to be more reasonable. The war of the generations is definitely felt by most all parents. Even if its a sit down passive war of I will not move from the couch nor get off the computer. It is all predictable from the eyes of thousands if not a million years ago or again from the primordial goo looking for food and devouring everything in its path that it can possibly digest.

ADOLESCENT

 

So, what can we do? Precious little but monitor they coming and goings. Don’t turn them loose. Their are too many predators out there waiting to use and abuse the. One thing I have noticed from some of the Asian cultures is that their children are not given much freedom to roam for an early age on, they are engaged in the family events and daily living. These teenagers are a bit naive but they seem to weather the teen years much easier and come out much better in the end. When teens are free to hang and get into trouble with their peers they share their ignorance and do not grow and develop at the faster pace of their more controlled peers. They turn to drugs to try and fill their need for love and productive pleasures and stunt the brain. They try to start their own colonies and end up with gangs or crime. The world outside of family and education is mostly a world of crime and exploitation of young people who have no realistic guidance. The world has always prayed upon the weak or isolated to make slaves of. And the world of human trafficking does just that. Your unmonitored teen is at risk of being used and abused in the street culture of gangs, sex, drugs, alcohol, and crime. If they have been abused and/or neglected such that their Lower Nature is dominant over their Upper Nature they are at very high risk because they will seek out kids and others who have the same emotional neediness. See blog on Human Trafficking. On that site I will be telling how it is done, what to look for, etc. Right now I just want to talk more about the average teen.

6) Battle of the Wills Adults

Adults must balance their widgets. Adults are very complicated. So it is not so easy to say what to do. It depends on what personality disorders we are, which widgets are dominant, what environment we are in, and many more factors. The pic below lets us see that a personality that is successful has Upper Nature Widgets that are larger than the Lower Nature Widgets.  And the dominant widgets are Cuddles Love and Geru the wisdom widget. Love is great but needs wisdom and wisdom without love is lost when it comes to dealing with other people.

ADULT