4) Battle of the Wills Older Children

Step Three: We want to teach our children that not all is what it appears to be and to ask questions. Before the age of ten children usually can not tell reality from fantasy but many question their existence. When one of my 7 year old grandson’s had figured out there is no Santa Clause I asked if the tooth fairy was real. ‘Of course,’ he announced, ‘I have proof.’ His hefty little hand held out a Canadian quarter with a picture of the fairy. He had found it under his pillow where he had placed his tooth.

Children need to learn to be fair. They are very good at knowing when we are not fair to them but they have a hard time translating that to others. Pets are great lesson givers on how to be loving and gentle to the inept. They are great for teaching empathy. Transferring that to other kids or adults can be innate lessons on compassion. Animals are easier to understand as adults are very complicated to them. Until they are adults they will never really understand what we go through.


Kids will believe anything before the age of ll.

How to self correct, the turtle for little ones. Discipline and Love both.


But keep on helping them understand the world.  I was not very old when an older brother told me there was no end to the universe because if we came to the end we could open a door and there would be more space behind it. That concept stayed with me to this day. Einstein began think about his theory of relativity when very young as he watched a train go by at high speed but the passengers moved around with ease.

Young children ask a million questions, a good time to give accurate answers as long as they do not scare them.

Step One: Teaching children to stop and observe without thinking to just observe the patterns. To look at what is the same and what is different. To see if things change because of different factors such as gender, age, time of day, time of week, month, or year. Factors can be weather, people involved, festivities, and as you get more  sophisticated such as politics or beliefs. At this point step three of being fair see step two

Step Two: Teaching children, who are not real judgmental anyway, how to view others from different angles so they do not become judgmental. I like to teach a way to look at others. Children show distinct intolerance to the actions of others. They begin to not want to go to religious events, or school stating they have no reason for it.