Adults must balance their widgets. Adults are very complicated. So it is not so easy to say what to do. It depends on what personality disorders we are, which widgets are dominant, what environment we are in, and many more factors. The pic below lets us see that a personality that is successful has Upper Nature Widgets that are larger than the Lower Nature Widgets. And the dominant widgets are Cuddles Love and Geru the wisdom widget. Love is great but needs wisdom and wisdom without love is lost when it comes to dealing with other people.